Apologies in advance if this is quite wordy, I am autistic myself and I hope these are all relevant details and no waffle. England here.
(Edit: I have misplaced the PCN but I am trying to track it down. I have attached the rejection letter for the formal appeal a few posts down.)
A few weeks ago, my wife called me and said our autistic child was having an extremely tough morning and that she thought it was best to take him out of school and drop him off with me so I could take him to a sensory play session, and then take him back to school hopefully much calmer.
I parked my car in a disabled bay, displayed the blue badge and clock, and walked immediately over to a spot in front of a shop to await their arrival. I got a call from the badge issuing office saying I was seen leaving the car without the badge holder and to go and speak to the Civil Enforcement Officer by the car. I went and explained that I was there to collect the badge holder and that they were on their way. The Officer said that this is not acceptable as the holder has to be present for both parts of the journey. I was mortified and explained that I thought I could use the badge for picking up and dropping off. I called my wife, but she didn't answer so the warden issued me a ticket. He did not confiscate the badge.
The officer said to come and find him if I could get hold of her. She eventually called back and explained that she had been quickly cleaning feces from the bathroom wall that she had just discovered and was now collecting him to bring to me. I found the officer, who spoke to her and made a note of this.
He said I could stay in the space because I had been issued a ticket and couldn't be issued another one and, quite distressed, I said I would prefer to just move my car if I was using the badge incorrectly as he had stated and I didn't want to take up a space for somebody else. I spoke to my wife and we decided to collect him later and take him along to the later session instead as I was so distressed.
My informal appeal was declined on the grounds that the badge holder had to be in the vehicle on arrival. The PCN was described as "Parked in a designated disabled person's parking place without displaying a valid disabled person's badge in the prescribed manner."
I have since checked, and nothing in my booklet, the council website, citizens advice etc says that the holder must be present for the full journey. It is made clear in all resources that the badge can be used to collect someone or drop them off and there's no further elaboration on how long I'm allowed to wait. I presumed that I had the full 2 hours as per the road sign.
I want to progress to a formal appeal detailing this, but my wife is terrified we will get taken to court and struggle to prove our story and wants me to just pay the reduced fine while I still can. I am concerned that this is an admission of guilt and will lead to prosecution for abuse of the badge if I pay the fine.
I don't know what to do and if I get a criminal record I will lose my job. Please please please help.